Living With A Manchild Why you Feel Like a Single Mothers In your Relationship
You are not imagining it. You are carrying too much.
There are many women who wake up every morning and immediately feel the weight of the world on their shoulders.
Not just the house.
Not just the children.
The entire responsibility of life itself.
They get up and go straight into work mode.
They manage the household.
They plan the days.
They solve the problems.
They remember everything.
They anticipate everyone’s needs.
They take care of the dog.
They handle the laundry, the shopping and the meals.
They support their children.
They deal with the school system.
They show up for their families, ageing parents and inlaws.
They try to be active in their community.
They work.
They pay bills.
They hold it all together.
And on top of that, they mother a grown adult who should be their partner.
This is not partnership.
This is a woman doing life alone while someone else benefits from it.
The Truth Women Already Know
Women in this situation do not lie awake at night wondering what is wrong with them.
They already know the truth.
They are tired because they are doing everything.
They are overwhelmed because no one steps in.
They are drained because their partner takes what they give without offering support back.
They feel unappreciated because their effort is expected, not valued.
At night, they do not have revelations.
They are simply exhausted.
Not because they are weak
but because they have been living as a single woman inside a relationship.
The Invisible Load That No One Acknowledges
This is the part no one talks about:
Women carry the emotional, mental and physical load of the entire household by themselves.
They carry the remembering.
They carry the planning.
They carry the emotional labour.
They carry the responsibility for every detail.
They carry the pressure of making sure everything works.
Meanwhile, the partner benefits from it without matching the effort.
This is not a small imbalance.
It is a lifestyle that drains a woman over time.
Overgiving And Overtaking
Where one exists, the other will always show up
Women who end up in this dynamic are almost always overgivers.
Not because they want to be
but because no one ever taught them boundaries.
They handle everything because:
• They learned early that being helpful kept them safe
• They were praised for being responsible
• They were the child who took care of others
• They were expected to manage emotional tension
• They confused love with service
• They were taught to prove their worth through effort
Overgivers do not realise they are overgiving.
It feels normal to them.
It feels necessary.
It feels like the only way to keep peace.
And wherever there is an overgiver
there will always be someone who takes more than they should.
Not because the woman is not enough
but because she never learned how to protect her energy.
The Manchild Dynamic
When you become the only adult in the relationship
A manchild partner does not function as an equal adult.
He behaves more like an additional dependent.
He avoids responsibility.
He shuts down during important conversations.
He does the bare minimum.
He expects praise for things that should be normal.
He assumes you will handle everything.
He takes your labour for granted.
He sees your effort as standard, not special.
This forces you into roles you never chose.
You become the planner
the cleaner
the cook
the emotional manager
the reminder
the organiser
the caretaker
and the backbone of the home
You are the only adult keeping the structure running.
He simply exists inside what you create.
The Emotional Cost
This lifestyle affects every part of a woman’s wellbeing
When a woman carries everything alone, the emotional impact is real and long lasting.
Women in this situation often feel:
• Constant exhaustion
• Lack of support
• Feeling taken for granted
• Emotional disconnection
• Built up resentment
• Being unheard or dismissed
• A sense of living two lives
• Unhappiness they no longer know how to express
This is not because they are too sensitive.
It is because they are carrying more than any one person should.
Boundaries As An Act Of Self Respect
The only way this dynamic changes
Boundaries are not harsh.
They are necessary.
A woman can only stop overgiving when she learns that her needs matter just as much as everyone else’s.
Healthy boundaries start with:
• I cannot do everything alone
• I deserve support
• I will not mother an adult
• My time and energy are valuable
• I expect partnership, not dependence
• I am no longer available for one sided relationships
This is not about punishing anyone.
It is about protecting yourself.
Healing The Enoughness Wound
This pattern is not your identity. It is a wound.
Women do not fall into this dynamic because they are incapable.
They fall into it because their inner child learned she had to earn love through effort.
As a trauma informed clinical hypnotherapist, RTT® Therapist and HeartHealing® Practitioner, I help women release the deeper wounds behind this pattern so they can live with balance and self respect.
Healing the enoughness wound helps you:
• Stop overgiving
• Stop attracting overtakers
• Feel worthy of support
• Set boundaries without fear
• Reclaim your energy
• Expect partnership instead of caretaking
• Build relationships where effort is shared
You deserve a life where you are supported, not drained.
Your Next Step
A direct invitation if you are ready for change
If you recognise yourself in these words
If you are tired of carrying the full weight of life alone
If you want emotional balance and a relationship where you are valued
Your next step is my 30 Day Enoughness Wound Package.
You can book directly here or send an email to info@sandranegron.de
This is for women who are ready to stop overgiving and start living with self respect, clarity and confidence.
You do not have to keep doing everything alone.
You deserve support too.
Here Are Some Journaling Prompts To Help You Begin Your Healing Journey
• Where am I carrying responsibilities that do not belong to me
• How long have I been the overgiver in my relationships
• What signs have I ignored that someone is overtaking
• What would change if I stopped doing everything by myself
• What boundaries do I need in order to feel respected
• Where did I learn that I must earn love through effort
• What kind of support do I want and need
• What would feeling truly valued look like in my life